After Reading AN Article About Friends: My Point Of View

The Outline Of The Original Article-------

The definitions for friends are applied to a wide range of relationships ---to someone has known for a few weeks in a new place , to a close business associate , to a childhood playmate , to a man or woman , to a trusted confidant , etc . Also , the “translations” for friends differ from country to country .For a French , the one whom he say “my friend” to is not really a close friend .And the affection goes the opposite proportion to the times word “friend” were said .
For the French , friendship is a one-to-one relationship that demand keen awareness of the other person’s intellect , temperament , and particular interests .On top of that , French friendships are also compartmentalized .

In Germany , friendship is much more articulately a matter of feeling .Appropriately , in Germany friends are brought to the family .Like ties of kinship , ties of friendship are meant to be irrevocably .

English friendships follow still a different pattern .
Their basis is shared activity . Activities at different stages of life may be of very different kinds .Americans who have made English friends comment that , even years later , “you can take up just where you left off .” Meeting a long interval , friends are like a couple who begin to dance again when the orchestra strikes up after a pause . English friends are formed outside the family circle , but they are not , as in Germany , contrapuntal to the family not are they , as in France , separated from the family .

A so-called “friendship” is to the contrast of “kinship” ., and invokes freedom and choice . A friend is someone who chooses and is chosen . And between friends there is inevitably a kind of equality of give-and-take . The American’s characteristic openness to different styles of relationship makes him possible to find new friends abroad with whom he feels at home .

My Reflection:

There’s no denying the fact that it’s rather important to strike up bonds between each other .And it’s is needless to said that the ways of bond formation differ from country to country .

As far as I’m concerned , the friendship that I appreciated most is the American style . According to the passages , for a Frenchman , there exists so many courtesies to follow . compartmentalization , for example . Also , you can’t emphasize the word “friend” too many times since that’s not the true affection .In addition , for the Germans , the bonds between friends are strong enough to say that it’s such a burden . Further more , once you break up with someone ,it’s such a tragedy since you’ve put too much mind in him(her) .And for the English , you can roughly say that
it’s definitely difficult to form a friendship if you have no particular talents . To make a long story short ,unlike the European style , which forms with some restricts , “Free and Easy” is the best adjective for U.S. friendship .

Another reason that I prefer the American style most is it resembles the Taiwanese style most .Just look around us , we can make friends easily without taking on so many burdens . And it’s certainly self-evident that in our society ,
too many appendages on the subject , friendship , is usually consider fakeness .So , once we can get along with each other in a relax way , there will be more opportunities for us to make several new bonds among others.